同樣的,這些童話,就像小百科一樣,
                                                                               
在思考的死角一不小心跳出來嚇你一跳,
讓你驚嚇於自己的古板和堅定。
                                                                               
卻一定也不會是我的book of life。
                                                                               
畢竟,由我整個人的道德操守和所作所為即可知道,
                                                                               
我想必是相當的背離了那些論述。
                                                                               
我貪心我想要我愛比較,喜歡美麗的姑娘,
我不誠實也不勤快,常蹺課還貪玩。
                                                                               
                                                                               
這麼說好了,雖然並不是大奸大惡之徒(我並不具備那樣的能耐)
                                                                               
可我也並沒有按照這些尺規畫我的軌跡。
                                                                               
並且略為的偏離了,方向是第三象限 (-,-)
                                                                               
                                                                               
當年購買了小百科和中國童話的人母人父,
期待的小孩是這個樣子的麼?
                                                                               
懶散,多話,多數是謊話, 物質而頑劣地根深蒂固。
                                                                               
                                                                               
擴大一點來看,有任何一對父母為了孩子的性格塑造所花的4千5千乃至1萬 256萬
成功地讓孩子符合尺規的呢?
                                                                               
只怕少數中的少數吧。
敢這麼說的父母或許還有半數是出自對子女的不了解。
                                                                               
                                                                               
那豈不是太可笑了嘛?
                                                                               
竟是那樣的期待著: 早期的閱讀是未來的道德型塑。
                                                                               
那些錢花的太冤枉了。
                                                                               
果然是冤枉的啊,當初的通貨流動,
                                                                               
畢竟也畢竟,多數的我們,對於忠孝節義,一片模糊。至今。
但如果,透過這個今昔對比(當初的期待對比至現今的我們)
就想否定了父母對小朋友的成長有所影響的話,
                                                                               
那絕對是不成的。
                                                                               
                                                                               
根據我自己的經驗,還有在補習班呆的半年,
                                                                               
目前的結論是:
                                                                               
小朋友受到的影響果然還是來自父母,來自同儕,來自師長。
                                                                               
來自 眼前的高度他們心羨嚮往,
                                                                               
一不小心就變成那個樣子了。
                                                                               
父母 師長 同儕的影響,比天還大。
                                                                               
                                                                               
試圖用一套或多套昂貴的百科全書童話故事來掩蓋
自己是個會打老婆(或丈夫)的酒鬼,徒勞而無功。
                                                                               
遠不如改變自己,以身行教,改變小朋友仰望的高度。

說來簡單,身為大人的我們,有那麼容易改變自己嘛?
                                                                               
如果可以改的話,那當初七早八早就改變了吧。
                                                                               
戒煙,酒,髒話,謊話,垃圾話;
抱怨,吵架,乾旱的性生活;
                                                                               
我們的不完美建立了我們。
                                                                               
因為一個新生命的誕生,或者值得我們少抽幾口,少罵幾句。
                                                                               
但當這些小朋友逐漸蠶食鯨吞人母人父的能量精力時,
                                                                               
無理取鬧,大哭大叫,打翻早餐亂大便,偷你的錢包床底下藏A書。
一個巴掌快的多。
                                                                               
唉。
                                                                               
吵了一場親子都顫抖的架,
                                                                               
唉了長長的一口。
                                                                               
驚覺孩子原來還是take sth after parents
                                                                               
你才發現你的不完美也造就了孩子。
                                                                               
                                                                               
這時候再來戒煙會不會太慢了呢?
你的小朋友可能已經在學校和別人用日光燈管幹架了,
而那還算是輕微的。
所以我到底想說什麼啊?
                                                                               
                                                                               
我到底想說的。
                                                                               
是:
                                                                               
漢聲小百科和中國童話可能教了我們
                                                                               
12月的蛇也不一定在冬眠。
                                                                               
誠實對待你的朋友。
                                                                               
但它沒有跟我們說,
                                                                               
世上還有很多很多很多
                                                                               
身為大人也未必知道該怎麼面對的事情,
                                                                               
那是更多的大人小鬼,不管他們有沒有同樣的父母購買了不同的童話百科名人傳記,
                                                                               
和你一模一個樣地閱讀了那些深入淺出的雜碎知識,
在認知了月亮陰晴圓缺和微波爐的原理之後所幹下的飆車搶劫殺人欺騙謊言愚弄陰險
                                                                               
                                                                               
漢聲小百科和中國童話是一點也沒說的。
                                                                               
更沒說該怎麼辦。
                                                                               
                                                                               
                                                                               
對啊,他們真的沒有教我該怎麼辦啊。
                                                                               
就像是現在,
                                                                               
雖然我知道有些蛇是不冬眠的,
草木會因人來人往的踏伐而自動讓路,
                                                                               
告訴我這些知識的漢聲小百科 卻沒有具體而淺顯的讓我了解:
                                                                               
在叢林裡迷路,忽然有一枝白羽箭激射而出,掠過鼻端的時候該怎麼辦?
                                                                               
更別說:
                                                                               
一套12冊定價5940優惠價5600的它們 可是一頁一段都沒有提及,
當你在叢林裡迷路,一枝白羽箭激射而出掠過鼻頭的當兒 ,
                                                                               
順勢發現了一具 失落了兩條臂膀的無名死屍(男) 該怎麼辦?
                                                                               
                                                                               
連一句也沒有說啊,媽的!

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